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How To Hook Up With Someone Out Of Your League

Sometimes we fall for someone that others tell us are out of our league. We're going to look at how to ignore the haters, and hook up with those hotties.

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The biggest thing that we need to address right out of the gate is that leagues don't actually exist when it comes to dating and hookups. Almost everyone is able to date who people might consider out of their league. It's all a matter of putting forward the best version of you that you can, and don't let any hint of insecurity find its way into a conversation, and give the person you're trying to hook up with a reason to not hang out with you. That would be a matter of self-sabotage, not your crush deciding that you're out of their league.

In order to hook up with someone who's out of your league, based on society's backwards standards, you just need to be confident, and not let any negative thoughts that you might have, try to bring you down.

Keep in mind that this isn't an exact science, so you may experience some rejection when following our suggestions, but for the most part, it's solid advice! Let's take a look at some tried and tested ways to put your best foot forward, and catch a hook up that most people won't believe.

Don't Worry About What League They're In

You need to stop worrying about traditional standards of beauty. It sounds extremely corny, but if you're a good person with a lot to offer a partner, then you really don't have anything to worry about when it comes to meeting someone for either a relationship or a hook up.

When you talk to someone that you want to hook up with, part of their reaction to you will be to your physical appearance for sure. So if you start off not being the best looking person in a club, it's not that big a deal so long as you're able to be confident, and be interesting. You wouldn't believe how many times people get hit on in a night by someone who's very attractive, but who also have rocks for brains. You can imagine that talking with someone who has at least half a brain, a personality that's memorable, and maybe even has a couple solid jokes, could be preferable to talking to a model who turns heads everywhere they go, but who kill every conversation they try to inject themselves into.

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If you're trying to hit on someone who thinks they have a league, and that you're not in it, the truth of the matter is that they don't deserve to get with you. Again, this all sounds very corny, but these are the types of thoughts that you need to have running through your mind at all times in order to get yourself the type of hookups that you're looking for.

Looking Good is Hard Work

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Personality will only get you so far. If you're going to be competitive in today's dating and hookup scene, you're going to have to make sure that you're looking as fresh as possible, at all times. If you're not typically a stylish person, you can ask a friend who is, if they'll take you shopping, and help you pick out some outfits for you to wear out to clubs, or out on dates.

While we did just say that your looks aren't everything, it's very important that you at the very least, clean up nicely, and can show a prospective hook up that you look after yourself.

A.B.D. (Always Be Dating)

One thing that can set you apart from a lot of other people, is if you're always getting out there, and meeting new people. Dating is like a muscle. It needs to be stretched and used, or else it cramps up. The more people you're going on dates with, the more comfortable you're going to become in your skin. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities you can have, and here's a little secret that not many people will tell you. A lot of people who're traditionally good looking, are insecure. Some of the most beautiful people on the planet, don't see themselves as beautiful. So if they're "out of your league" but you have the confidence that they wish they had, there's something that they're bound to be attracted to.

The more you date, or hook up with people, the better prepared you'll be to rock the socks off of the person that you've got on your mind most of the day.

Wing Men and Wing Women

If you're out at a bar or club, trying to pick up, having a quality wing man or woman is indispensable. Even though it sounds shallow, the better looking they are, the more effective they are. When an attractive person vouches for you, it somehow has more value to it than if you had a wing man. It's a strange system, but it's been that way for ages. It's basically that if you have cute friends, you must be pretty cool. So if you have any good friends who if you were to try and hookup with them, would be considered out of your league, tell them to to get dressed up, because you're going out, and you're picking up!

Hookup Apps Are Not Your Friend

If you're looking to hook up with someone that's out of your league, then hookup apps aren't going to get you anywhere. The majority of them are image-based selection systems, so your personality and confidence don't have a chance to shine. You can certainly get dates on them, but it's going to be very rare for you to be matched up with someone like you're looking for. You'll be matched up with people who're either very much in your league, or in a league below you.

If you're looking to meet people online, we suggest using online dating sites before there were apps. These sites allow for you to put more of your personality in your profile, and also often allow you to send messages to people that you're interested in, without needing to have them first "match" with you.

We understand why those systems were put in place, but they're also making dating and hookups far too rooted in these outdated ideas of beauty and leagues.

What Are Your Interests?

It may seem simple, but when you're talking to someone that you're hoping to hook up with (regardless of how good looking they are, really), you need to be interesting. So when a prospective hook up asks you what you like to do for fun outside of going to clubs, make sure that even if your actual interests are boring, you have a good answer ready. We're entering the realm of deception, which we're not crazy about, but if you're boring, you're not going to get interesting overnight. Please work on it though. It will work wonders for you.

The best types of conversations for making a potential hookup interested in you, are either talking about something they really like, or talking about something that they might not know a lot about, but that is very interesting, and perhaps even makes you seem smarter than you are.

Baby Steps

When you're looking to step outside of your comfort zone, and hook up with people who you've spent your entire life thinking were out of your league, you need to go up the ladder slowly. One rung at a time. You don't want to just jump from your ex, who everyone thought was a great match for you, to someone who has over 50 thousand Instagram followers as an influencer and style blogger. If you fly into the sun right away, you're going to burn up. Take your time. Enjoy the ride(s). This is your new way of living. There's no rush to get to the top of the mountain; whoever you might think that is. Your goal should be to have lots and lots of great sex that you didn't feel confident enough to try and have before.

Look After Yourself

You might think that suggesting that you get into shape goes against the whole point of hooking up with someone who's out of your league. You're trying to take the shortcuts.

While the shortcuts do exist, the better the whole package is, the better your hookups will be. Remember when Chris Pratt was on Parks & Recreation? He did very well for himself as the star of a network sitcom, even though he was a bit overweight, and not one of the show's main characters. He was married to the very attractive, and very talented, Anna Faris.

Then he began getting roles in big films like Guardians of the Galaxy and the new Jurassic World films, where he was required to hit the gym, and get buff. He's since become a Hollywood bachelor, and finds himself in films where he's taking his shirt off alongside some of the movie industry's biggest hunks, like Chris Hemsworth, and Chris Pine.

You see, Pratt was going very well for himself, (the same way you will be if you follow our advice), but he took a bit of time to better himself, and he's now considered a legitimate hunk, and we're sure it's probably almost effortless for him to hook up with someone who's out of his league. Have you seen all of the videos online of him flirting heavily with Jennifer Lawrence? You might go hit the gym, or make yourself a smoothie before you finish the rest of this article.

On the Flip Side

We know that you're looking to hook up with people who're out of your league, and like we've said, that's a very attainable goal, with a lot of work. Think about how you look at a potential hookup that's out of your league for a moment though. Perhaps there's even a specific person that you've wanted to hook up with for so long, but didn't have the confidence make your move.

Now think of all of the people that are in the "leagues" below you. There's a very strong chance that they would see you on a hookup app, or at a dance club, and think that only in their dreams would someone like you want to go out with or have sex with them. They're thinking and feeling the exact same things that you are, but about you. We're not saying that you should put your goal of hooking up with people out of your league, but we definitely think that during the process, you might have some great sex with people who are perhaps reading this article, or one just like it, and thinking about how they're going to get to sleep with people like you.

You might even find someone special, by changing up your goals every now and then when you go out to the club, or go on your favorite dating sites. Hooking up with "beautiful people" from time to time is nice, but you should never forget where you came from.

Just some food for thought to keep you energized as you continue your mission to hook up with those above you. And remember how important we told you confidence was? The confidence you'll gain by being in that position could be invaluable. Think about celebrity couples where one party is way more attractive than the other person. One person might see them and think, "What does he see in her?" Another person might see them and think, "She must be an incredible woman if he's dating her." We've trailed off a bit from our original objective, but the goal as we see it is to build up your confidence, so that you can have some incredible hook ups. We've given you all of the information that you need to do that. Best of luck!

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Sometimes we fall for someone that others tell us are out of our league. We're going to look at how to ignore the haters, and hook up with those hotties.

How To Hook Up With Someone Out Of Your League - EZHookups.com